Here's a question I believe a lot of people who are putting themselves out there ask: Should I be myself on the first date? With butterflies in their stomachs and huge grins plastered across the face, they wonder if they should seal their excitements and act a certain way to impress the person they are about to date. Show they be themselves? Or should they conceal a part of their personality? Well, heres my little take on the subject: The whole point of dating is to get to know each other. I think that if Im into a girl, Id like to get to know the real her as soon as possible. I want to find out if theres any chemistry on top of the fact that at some level, were both attracted to each other because otherwise we wouldn't have been on a date in the first place.
I think that while its important to put up a good impression, its useless if you cant be yourself. Whats the point of ever finding out if you'd be a good match or do great in a relationship when you cant feel comfortable around each other? And if they cant accept the things you cant control, like an annoying laugh or a sweaty palm condition, or the things you deeply believe in, like beliefs and values and your faith, then you really wouldn't want to spend the rest of your life with this person, right?
So, should you really be yourself on the first date? I say Yes! Be yourself and find out if theres anything more to the superficial attraction you have towards each other. Find out if theres any chemistry between you, because that chemistry will be the foundation to your relationship should you choose to continue.
I had this thought about being honest right off the bat when I saw Yansen and Sisca. These two never seemed like they needed to act a certain way or behave a certain way out of their own comfort zones in front of each other. Well, I guess that after eleven years of being with each other, they have all their awkwardness ironed out. But I asked them about how they were at the beginning of their relationship, considering how young they were when they started out. They said that since they were friends before they became an item, they never really concealed anything, instead, it was their honesty and transparency to each other that led them to finding chemistry at the early parts of their relationship.
Be honest and be yourself because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.